Breakups are rarely easy. But what if moving on after a relationship isn’t as easy for you as it is for others?

Ending a relationship can be… tough. Perhaps you’ve drifted apart and things have ended amicably; maybe communication had broken down, or your emotional connection has faded over time. Infidelity, money troubles, toxic or excessive jealousy, trouble making things work long-distance – there are more reasons than you can count for a relationship to end. Yet, for many of us, that doesn’t make the healing process any easier.

The average American adult will experience three major relationship breakups during their lifetime, taking six months to get over each fully. Yet, according to research, on average we give ourselves just four days to ‘wallow in sadness’ (or rather, grieve for the relationship we have lost) immediately after it has ended. For those ending a more long-term committed relationship like a marriage, studies have estimated it can take up to 18 months to feel ready to move on.

So, why do some of us seem to be more affected than others when it comes to moving on from our relationships? And could taking longer to ‘get over’ your ex be a sign of something more serious?

Relationship breakups: What’s normal?

The end of a relationship can come with huge life changes. If you shared a home, you may find yourself needing to move; if you shared bills, you’ll need to take another look at your finances. If things weren’t amicable, who gets to ‘keep’ your shared friends? And that’s not even touching the emotional turmoil that can leave you feeling anxious, angry, sad, overwhelmed, bitter, confused, hurt, and heartbroken.

While there’s no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to experience a breakup with someone, there are aspects which can make it feel easier for both of you. You may feel more able and ready to move on if:

• Your relationship broke up face-to-face. Ghosting, or being rejected by text, call, or email can stop you from having the chance to express yourself and your feelings, and have a final opportunity to go through things together. This can stop you from feeling able to move on, as you may feel like you have unfinished business, or too much has been left unsaid.
• You both had the chance to be honest. Having a real reason for the ending of a relationship (without things going into too much detail, or feeling too brutal) can help to create a sense of catharsis. You may still be unhappy, or may not even fully agree with that reason, but knowing the why can be a big help in moving on.
• You had a clean break. When one partner tries to hang on, insists on ‘fixing’ or ‘saving’ your relationship, or even tries to argue that your reasons or feelings that have led to this breakup aren’t valid, it can cause more harm than good. Even if you want to remain friends (something 60% of us manage, according to one 2017 study), it can be easier if you don't.
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This potato salad made with roasted potatoes is a whole new world of potato salad awesomeness and you need to try it asap.

A tangy creamy dressing coats every bite of this salad along with hard-boiled eggs, olives, and pickles. Roasting the potatoes provides a richer potato flavor for the salad in addition to giving a better texture to the potatoes.

Potato Salad with Roasted Potatoes

Oh, how I love potato salads. I’ve shared so many potato salad recipes here, I really can’t pick a favorite. This one has been in the rotation for over ten years though and it’s definitely one of the recipes I make the most frequently.

Have you tried roasting the potatoes for potato salad? Roasting is a bit of a gamechanger. No mushy potatoes, no overcooked bites, just perfectly tender fluffy potatoes in a tangy dressing.

My favorite add-ins for potato salad are classics with just some hard-boiled eggs, a bit of pickle, and some olives.

I know everyone doesn’t love olives, but trust me here and try them once. I thought I hated them too, but man, they are awesome in potato salad.

The Roasted Potato Salad was requested for a barbeque this past weekend and I was happy for the excuse to make it once again and finally update the photos.

Roasted Potato Salad

The most important thing to keep in mind when roasting the potatoes for this salad is that the potatoes should be tender and lightly browned, but not cooked until crispy.

Normally, when I’m roasting potatoes I want them deeply browned on the edges and super crisp. However, for a potato salad, you’ll want to cool the potatoes completely before mixing them with the dressing.

And crispy deeply roasted potatoes? Unfortunately, while they are AMAZING piping hot, they arenR

From dopamine dressing to radical self-acceptance, explore how to tap into a limitless version of you

Hello Happiful readers,

What’s your favourite colour? Hang on, let me guess. Is it blue?

It’s a trick borrowed from Lauren Labrecque, an associate professor at the University of Rhode Island. Lauren would ask the same question to her students, already having a slide prepared with her prediction: 80% of the responses would be blue.

It’s a safe bet. Worldwide studies and surveys have found again and again that blue is the most common ‘favourite colour’ among adults. Scientists don’t really know why this is the case, but if you’re worried this means we’re all the same, you shouldn’t be. Colours are subjective; not only do we each see them slightly differently, but we also project onto them our individual experiences, emotions, culture, and associations. The result is a personal palette that tells the story of our lives, and which could never be replicated or even, currently, completely understood.

Though, if you’ve ever taken a ‘What does your favourite colour say about you?’ quiz, you’ll know there’s something about being told that liking the colour green means you’re dependable that really hits the spot, even if the science is dubious.

It’s an interesting insight into the ways that our preferences feed into our sense of self, and vice versa. When it comes to our wellbeing, feeling as though we understand and can express ourselves is key. If you always make decisions in-line with your honest desires, needs, and values, those choices become that much easier. So, how do we get to that point?

In issue 65, we explore ‘dopamine dressing’ and meet the colourful people who will challenge you to think differently about fashion and self-expression. And our print-exclusive journaling pages are a space to explore a limitless version of you.

But you’ve also got to face the hard stuff. We’re unpacking the concept of ‘pleasanteeism’ in the workplace on p14, and flick to p25 and you’ll find a reflection on what would happen if, in a world that wants you to hide your struggles, you practised radical self-acceptance?

Plus, this print edition includes:

• Intriguing features including an ancient Greek secret to inner joy, the wellbeing power of morning pages, advice on questioning a mental health misdiagnosis, and how to make keep intimacy alive in long-term relationships.

• Essential life hacks from recognising anxiety through the ages to discussing burnout with your boss, and managing mismatched work-life balance with your other half.

• Expert input on a range of topics including adult bullying, myths about narcissism, why we ignore relationship red flags, and the long-term impact of financial trauma.

What does an honest, o

Pao De Queijo Brazilian Cheese Bread

Pao De Queijo Brazilian Cheese Bread is a simple and cheesy gluten free bread from Brazil. It’s made with tapioca flour and a mix of Parmesan and Mozzarella cheeses.

One of my favorite things about this recipe is that you make, bake, and then eat them. No yeast. No rising, and no waiting. They also freeze super well to eat on a different day.

They are slightly crispy on the outside and soft, chewy and cheesy on the inside. Pretty much cheesy bread perfection!

Have you ever been to Tucanos? It’s this fantastic Brazilian restaurant that serves Churrasco style. The meat comes around on skewers and you turn your little wooden thingy to green for start the food and red to stop. It. Is. Awesome. Forrizle. Every single year we celebrate Cade’s birthday at Tucanos. It’s tradition.

Anyway, we love taking the kids and letting them experience this Brazilian restaurant. Ok, it’s not the real deal like they have in Brazil, but it’s as good as we are going to get around here. The kids love when the drums come out and everyone sings to Cade. Don’t you just love a good tradition?

They have this bread called Pao de Queijo in Brazil and so, of course, it’s served at Tucanos. I have been tweaking and testing this recipe for years and this is finally IT! I can’t stop popping these little bundles of joy into my mouth!

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According to a 2019 study, spending at least 120 minutes a week in nature is associated with good health and wellbeing. So, we’re rounding up some of the most joyful and unusual ways to pass the time outdoors

“Nature is fuel for the soul,” Richard Ryan, professor of psychology at the University of Rochester, said.

In Professor Ryan’s study, published in the Journal of Environmental Psychology, 537 college students were split into five separate experiments. In one, the students were taken on a 15-minute walk either through indoor hallways or along a tree-lined riverside path. In another, they looked at photos of buildings or landscapes. And in the last, they were asked to imagine themselves in active and sedentary situations, both inside and outside, and with others and without.

When the results of the study were in, the students reported that their energy and vitality levels were lifted by being outside, or even just from imagining that they were, and the researchers came to a conclusion: that being in nature makes people feel more alive.

And to get more specific, a separate study, published in Scientific Reports, revealed that 120 minutes per week is the optimal amount of time to spend in nature if you’re looking to improve your health and wellbeing. So, all there’s left to do now is to decide what to do with the time you’re given – and we have some ideas…

Add a quick two-step into your walk

Walking and dancing: two things that have been shown time and time again to improve our mood and our wellbeing. But add them both together? Now you’re talking. A 2012 study published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology: General found that walkers who moved fluidly, and waved their arms in a sort of improvised dance, generated more ideas than those who walked normally. Breaking out of our usual patterns of behaviour is shown to help us think more creatively, making this a great tool for blowing away brain fog. It doesn’t have to be a full-on moonwalk – a hop, skip, or spin here and there, or even just moving your arms rhythmically could do the trick. Not brave enough to go at it alone? Bring a friend along, or the whole family, and you’ll soon leave any self-conscious feelings behind.

Feel the ground beneath your feet

Here’s a fact you might not have been expecting to read: feet have nearly twice as many nerve endings as penises (more than 7,000 in each foot, compared to 4,000, in case you were wondering). For this reason, feeling the ground beneath your bare feet invites intense and fascinating sensations. Soft soil and dewy grass, warm, cool, tickly, smooth – there is so much to experience. And all these experiences come together to ground us in the moment, forcing us to connect with the environment and the body that we’re in.

Find and create natural aromatherapy spots

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